From almost the day our daughter could speak “no” was her favorite word. I know for a fact it was a very popular choice for my husband and I to use on her. As she gets older we have talked with her a bunch about her right to use the word in inappropriate situations. But what can she do when “no” is not enough?
This is a fear that plagues not only parents but everyone, young and old. We grow up learning to make choices and feeling the power behind being able to make our own choices but that feeling, that power, is stolen from a victim. They no longer feel in control and any illusion of being safe is taken from them.
One of my favorite quotes says “When something bad happens you have three choices. You can let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.” How do we avoid being a victim? If you make the choice to say “no”, what do you do to back it up? Are you loud enough to make sure you are heard? Are you strong enough to make sure you cannot be made to? And do you have the skills to get away safely?
You have a choice to not be a victim or you have a choice to not let anything happen to you again. All it takes is knowledge, some proper training, and a commitment to yourself to ensure you can be able defend your choices. When “no” is not enough make sure you know what to do next!